May 13, 2018
Lessons Learned….this started as a “Digging in the Dirt” experience that evolved into a “When Freshwater Refreshens the Spirit” lesson. Vidal and I began the process of tearing down our old fence and constructing a new one a month ago. Our initial plan was to hire someone to take on the task as he is completing a custom automotive upholstery job and at least five other projects that have come in the meantime. Two of those jobs required that we work overnight in order to accommodate the business’ operating hours. These crazy hours prompted Elias to ask while he was helping us, “Dad, you do know you’re retired, right?”
If you want to test the strength of your marriage, build a fence with your husband. Oh, did I share that he’s a perfectionist, sprinkled with a dash of OCD, a smidgen of ADD and topped with a layer of thinly disguised sarcasm? 🤤
I have certainly had to put into practice 1 Corinthians 13:4.
My plants were getting stepped on…”Love is patient”; others uprooted…”Love is kind”; I learned how to use a post hole digger….”Love is patient”; removed old posts with cement attached using a shovel and brute strength……”Love is kind”; must use the level on every single slat before tacking it into place…”Love is patient”; we will predrill each and every hole before securing said slats with screws….”Love is kind”; I will ask your opinion but will ultimately do it my way….Love is patient AND kind”.
My emotions were all over the place with this project, the rollercoaster ride of grieving another Mother’s Day without my mom at the same time rejoicing in the gift of the two people who call me “mom” and the two bonus children who love them. A weary spirit isn’t always the most gracious one.
On that water today, I clearly understood verse 7…..”It (love) always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” My love and respect for Vidal has kept me from saying things I was thinking in my head. It wasn’t always easy but it certainly has prevented many arguments. I have to trust the decisions he’s making, although not always verbally articulated clearly are in our best interest. My hope is that in demonstrating this love even when it’s difficult will strengthen our bond. And finally, our love will persevere until this task is complete. 😀
To be fair, the fence looks amazing and it’s been a great learning experience. Next project….our roof needs to be redone. I don’t think I’m ready for that lesson.
Truly love one another even through the storms and be blessed y’all!
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